Relationships and Dating

Seeing as today was my day off, I had much time to think. I was blessed with the opportunity to Skype with one of my friends from middle school today. After meeting in middle school we dated for about three months in high school. Today we recalled upon those days and laughed at how juvenile our feelings were at the time. It made me realize how useless the last heartbreak I went through was. I had dated a different guy for about 15 months and spent every minute possible during that time with him. However, seeing as we both were in high school, I never realized how unrealistic our--or at least what i thought was "our"--intentions were. We had planned out our lives together in a way that I knew deep in the back of my mind was impossible. At the time I told myself that I didn't care because I loved him. Looking back now, I wish there was so much I could have told myself. Taking a step back to the breakup. Everyone was as shocked as I was when he decided to call it off; especially with no valid reason.  "You guys were perfect together." "I thought you guys would get married." "What? But I never saw you two fight." I cannot even count the number of times people told me this. I had nothing to do but agree with them.  The fact is, I NEVER remember us even fighting until we broke up. It made me realize that this was the issue. Arguing and disagreeing is completely normal and healthy in a successful relationship.  We were always trying so hard to please the other that we would just agree even if it put our own feelings/opinions to the side. I never remember him or myself asking the other "What do you think about..." or "How do you feel about...." or even saying "Yes, but I feel this way because..." Throughout dating, it has made me realize that my opinion really matters. Before I was so worried about getting a guy to like me, that I would just agree with them. In the end, this guy that I dated showed me that doing that is not impressive. Being confident in yourself is key. I know this is an abrupt end, and there's much more to stay.

To be continued....